Why is it you allow yourself to get caught up with the things you say you do not want in your life? You focus on your problems, knowing full well what you focus on grows and grows and grows…Your blood pressure skyrockets and your stomach bleeds fresh ulcers as you wring your hands in consternation. What’s up with that?!
Wouldn’t it be better to fix your attention on those things you want? Whether it’s to Be, Do, Have—whatever it is you desire—shouldn’t you be fixated on that? Even a little bit? And, since you’re co-creating your world by putting your conscious and subconscious thoughts in gear, shouldn’t you put more effort into training your brain to lean towards the positive? If that is the way the Universe works (it is), then why-oh-why are you wasting your time mainlining negative drama? If you’re going to be addicted to something, then shouldn’t it be something that lets you off at a much brighter place than the spot where you began this ride?
Rhetorical questions one and all, but all a must to think about. Yes is the answer you are looking for. If you have a choice betwixt Negative and Positive Drama (you do), then Grow the Good. It’s that simple. I’m not saying that there won’t be any work involved. Quite the contrary. You are going to have to work mighty hard to retrain your brain if you want its focus on the positive to become second nature. Like any hard-won goal or skill: it sparks with a decision, catches fire via an exercise of willpower, and grows to a conflagration through multiple trial-&-error training sessions. Willpower is the key that opens the door to this “new you” and it’s like any muscle. You have to employ it to get started, train it to keep moving forward, and continue using it to persevere on your path to a Bigger, Badder, Better, More Y-O-U.
Grow the Good. Focus, not on those things that are bringing you down, but center your attention on where you would rather be in your Life.
You’ve heard the brain is also a muscle, and exercising it increases your mental aptitude in whatever area you care to concentrate. The more effort you put into focusing on what you want in this life instead of wallowing in the mire of what you dread might happen to you, the easier it becomes—and the richer your life will be for it. Really-really.
International speaker Brian Tracy says, “You become what you focus on most of the time.” If all you think about is the gross tonnage of bad luck barreling downhill your way, then guess what you’re growing. At the very least, you’ve got your eye on the lookout for the “big nasty” that may show up any day. Be forewarned: if all you’re ever looking for is the bad, chances are you might see something not necessarily there. A friend of mine called this “Borrowing Trouble.”
Don’t go around borrowing trouble—looking for the “bad” that might not necessarily be there. As a Dream Hunting Success Freak, you’ve got more important things to spend your hard-earned time & energy on now. As Joe Vitale tells us in The Attractor Factor, use your complaints to help pinpoint what it is you’re craving in life (I’m paraphrasing here). Then, turn those complaints around and set your desire, not on avoiding the negative, but on pulling yourself towards the positive. (Just a little sprinkling of Tony Robbins here). In other words, don’t diet to avoid being fat…diet & exercise so you can be the healthiest you can be. See the difference?
It really is just a touch of mental & energetic gymnastics. Nothing too difficult and certainly nothing you can’t handle. All it takes is practice. Not just a little, mind you, we’re talking about a lifestyle/point-of-view change here, but it’s still only practice nonetheless. Think of it as your superpower. Something that has lain dormant until you were ready. You’ve only just discovered you have this special ability hidden deep within you. Now it’s time to begin your training, honing your new-found skills to the point where you are able to do good in the world. That’s right, the world—not just in your life, but the whole world. It’s possible. One step at a time, it’s doable. You are able to become as amazing as the effort you put into Growing the Good in your life. Even better—you cannot fail in this.
If you keep working, keep training, keep Growing the Good, you will succeed in developing your superpower. Whatever it may be. Your perseverance in this will lead you to a better, much more fulfilling life. Isn’t this worth the effort? Wouldn’t you rather spend your time & energy on promoting more Positive Drama in your life than stumbling around, bull in a china shop, yearning for something, even Negative Drama, to spice up your life? Isn’t your life worth more than this? The answer is Yes. However, even if you don’t think so, know it can be so. All you need are a decision, an exercise of willpower, and multiple trial-&-error sessions and you will be well on your way to becoming Bigger, Badder, Better, More. Who knows? (I do.) Perhaps you might even save the world—or at least your corner of it. (You will.) Trust me, I’ve seen it happen. In my life and the lives of others.
Work on having more Positive Drama in your life. Develop your Superpower. Grow the Good. Your life, and the lives those you touch, will be richer for it.
R. Mordant Mahon
R. Mordant Mahon is a Podcast Awards nominated co-host of the comedic motivational talk show, Success Freaks. A serial vlogger & author whose mission statement is “help others be awesome,” Mordant spreads the social media “gospel” while daring others to dance outside their comfort zone. With over 3500 live comedy performances across North America, his passion for live broadcasting offers a visionary point of view at what social media could be.
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